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Asking woman out. 5 tips for better success

Asking a woman out can be a challenge for some of us guys. For one reason or another we are to shy, too nervous or worry about the right thing to say. For you maybe every woman you ask is nerve racking. Maybe its that one woman you've been wanting to ask for a while. Maybe you don't have any trouble asking woman out but rather they frequently say no? Here are a few tips that if applied will make asking a woman out easier and you'll get a more positive response.

Making dates simple and why you should

When dating, you can date more or not so much more. You can make it painful and less painful. What is it I am talking about here? Keeping the first few dates cheap and simple! Most girls don't care ( I say most because some do prefer a conversation with a nice dinner). What about the women who do want to be wined and dined? How does knowing they aren't the one for you make you feel any better? Since this is about finding long term relationships and the process, that's no Buenos.  No matter their justifications for expensive, elaborate, impressive first dates, first dates are about establishment.

What do you establish?

Would you rather establish in a woman's mind that you are an entertainer or man looking for companionship? You're choice. For this we are going with a man looking for eternal companionship. You rock that companionship like you're the only kid on the block with Twinkies still in his cupboard! OH YEAH!

How do you establish this?

Well this is where you have to put some thought and effort and decide what it is you want and how that is best brought about. You'll want to find ways to indirectly and directly send signals to those you date. For example, if you are overly touchy on a first date, that could easy say you're just looking for trouble and dangerous fun. Reading up on a few talks from lds.org and books on eternal marriage would do wonders! Remember to ponder on what you read and about what you could do that would send a message to your future sweet heart of  (without directly stating) "I'm looking for love, and the eternal kind". 

 After establishing you're looking for eternal companionship and not eternal enslavement, or eternal maid service, or eternal house wive. Then and only then proceed to keeping it simple.

How simple?

What do you define as simple? Have you tried quantifying simple? Lets do this.

Atmosphere for good conversation ( no loud noises or chatter) - Check
Keep the date short (no longer then 1 maybe 2 hours) - Check
Have a plan B so when things rock you can just keep on rocking! - Check
Don't spend more then $0-$10 - Check
Do something you enjoy that you can share - Check
If you're not good at conversations think of some questions before hand  - Check
Give lots of Hi-fives - Check
Have the date in public - Check
Plan location, time and activity before (hint: women worry about what to wear and how much to get ready) - Check

Why do these things setup you up for sending the message of looking for eternal companionship . Could you get to know each other and build a relationship by going to a movie? NO! Could you find out if there is any connection by going to a Justin Beiber concert? YES, but that's like gambling. Taking a girl you don't know, out on a date spending $40-$80+ bucks on her is like gambling. If it doesn't work out though no worries you have plenty of money and you could go on like 5 more dates like this every month right? Yeah no biggie! After spending $200+ a month on dating you tell me. I realize that maybe you don't go on 5+ dates a month. Maybe you can spend a large sum of money on dates, you're totally open to choosing. But lets be honest how many people do you know who married the first person they dated? Did it work out? RIGHT!
Men shouldn't hesitate to treat a woman from time to time but make sure it's the right woman to treat! Notice I didn't say spend lots of money. I said treat them so they know they are special!

So now that you have a date plan with some principles in place. You want to find a girl or maybe you already have that girl in mind? You're wondering how can I increase my chances for success when asking a girl out? Well that's coming next! Please subscribe and share this with your fellow single friends! I appreciate it! I'm not a professional if you didn't already guess. I blog to share my dating experiences and what I've learned by making mistakes. If I can save you from collecting Twinkies! Then AWESOME!

Dating: What woman asked men and what they asked back ( dating panel)

things not very clear?

What do girls wonder about boys and dating?
What boys wonder about girls and dating?

Have you ever wanted to know what's on the opposite sex's mind with dating? In a dating panel held on a Sunday afternoon in a young single adult ward(18yr-31yr) I asked them. The men and woman wrote down their questions about dating to the men, and the men to the woman.

This one Time...

A very long time ago. When I was younger and less intelligent. I had a group date with a few friends. I hadn't taken the liberty to ask anyone until about 1 day before the actual date activity. I now know this spells disaster and rejection. Why? Because of a few reasons i'll explain after finishing this awesome story.

The Law of Self-Confidence

Step 1. Know Who you are. The law of self-confidence

Self Confidence will allow others to be confident in you. Over come difficult things, which will help you to grow and master a skill. Accomplish more. Do more. Be more. Plus, you'll go on more dates.

So I like dating...

Light Writing Group Date

This is my first blog post.(Surprise party sounds in background) I'm starting this blog to share my success's and failures in dating in the young single adult realm of the LDS religion (more commonly known to the world as Mormon) and the things which I learn(like spending $50 on a first date is a horrible idea!) I'd like this to be a place of learning, excitement, hope, comfort, and fun to those who are just getting out there, who are struggling, or seeking to find dates and be more confident with woman. I don't know how this will all come together but lets see how it goes.